pattyblind9golf
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This is a very interesting thread. From my experience, it depends.
I have male platonic friends, but none of them are my confidants - none of them are my closest friend, the person I would turn to if my marriage soured, or if the weight of the world was on my shoulders. I guess it depends on how you utilize friends - does that make sense? For me, I usually call my girlfriends when I fight with my husband or if I have something heavy weighing me down. I think when you start to talk emotionally about your other relationships (how you think you're boyfriend isn't the one) or your private intimate affairs with the opposite sex is when it gets a little more muddled and confusing. Add that in with a little attraction and some wine and I'd imagine that there might be some trouble. Perhaps some of you wouldn't ever talk about that kind of stuff (I mean ever) - but that's the kind of stuff I do talk about with my dear girl-friends. I imagine that my husband would NEVER talk about either of these topics to his female friends (and he has several close female friends). I'm curious to know for those of you with platonic relationships with the opposite sex if there are topics that you avoid? Or is your life an open book?
And I also think it depends on sexual attraction. If there is none on one side, I think it really helps to maintain a platonic relationship - even if the other person wishes dearly that it would be more.
I have male platonic friends, but none of them are my confidants - none of them are my closest friend, the person I would turn to if my marriage soured, or if the weight of the world was on my shoulders. I guess it depends on how you utilize friends - does that make sense? For me, I usually call my girlfriends when I fight with my husband or if I have something heavy weighing me down. I think when you start to talk emotionally about your other relationships (how you think you're boyfriend isn't the one) or your private intimate affairs with the opposite sex is when it gets a little more muddled and confusing. Add that in with a little attraction and some wine and I'd imagine that there might be some trouble. Perhaps some of you wouldn't ever talk about that kind of stuff (I mean ever) - but that's the kind of stuff I do talk about with my dear girl-friends. I imagine that my husband would NEVER talk about either of these topics to his female friends (and he has several close female friends). I'm curious to know for those of you with platonic relationships with the opposite sex if there are topics that you avoid? Or is your life an open book?
And I also think it depends on sexual attraction. If there is none on one side, I think it really helps to maintain a platonic relationship - even if the other person wishes dearly that it would be more.